The Most Annoying Things People Without Kids Say

Whether you have children or not — by choice or circumstance — shapes your life in many ways. One path is not necessarily better than the other, but the differences between the two can sometimes cause friction.

We previously asked Talk News readers who don’t have kids to reveal the parental behavior that actually bothers them, from acting as if they’re “hogging tiredness or stress,” to not trying to keep their kids quiet in restaurants and other public spaces. (You can read other responses here.)

Recently, we asked parents the same question, asking them what non-parents do that frustrates them the most. Read on to find out what they had to say.

When they compare being a pet owner to raising a child.

“I adored my dogs growing up and I adore my cats now, but nothing compares to raising my son.” —Naomi R.

“I’m pretty sure if you leave your kids at home with a bowl of water and food while you’re out of the house, the Department of Children, Youth and Families will pull your kids away from you while Fido is fine. Good. Not the same at all.” —Jessica M.

When they say, ‘If I had children, I would never…’

“Like, ‘If I had kids, I would never let them have screens.’ It’s a whole different ball game when you actually have kids. Everyone is a perfect parent until they actually become one!” —Jennifer H.

When they tell you to ‘get a babysitter’.

“Saying ‘get a babysitter’ as if it were easy, or as if I wanted to spend less time with my children on those occasions.” —Dani D.

″’Can’t you just get a babysitter?’ Um, no, I can’t just go up to a stranger and ask them on a whim to look after my kids, and I wouldn’t trust that situation either. Caregivers are hard to find and not cheap, so do I really have to go?” — Nicole D.

Or when they tell you, ‘just take your kids’ to an event or outing.

“It may seem easy, but there are many factors that prevent this from happening when you already have children.” —Female F.

When they comment about what’s — or isn’t — on your child’s plate.

“I get frustrated when people say, ‘They eat what you eat! If they’re hungry enough, they’ll eat it!’ This may be true for some kids, but my neuro-spicy kid would definitely starve himself.” —Ashlee W.

“When they say, ‘My child will never eat nuggets and mac and cheese. They will have a well-developed palate.’ Yes, not all parents have the time to develop and prepare a restaurant-quality menu. Other than that, just let kids be kids.” —Laura M.

Parents share their biggest frustrations with people who don't have children. Parents share their biggest frustrations with people who don’t have children.

Or when they question how you feed your baby.

“Suggesting to exclusively breastfeeding mothers who are reluctant to leave their child overnight, ‘Why not just leave the formula?’” — Lisa G.

“Telling parents of formula-fed babies, ‘Why aren’t you breastfeeding?’” — Laura M.

“You don’t know why I’m not breastfeeding and you don’t know what’s in the bottle. It could be breast milk and I don’t feel comfortable in public, or I can only make two bottles a day and supplements, or I tried and couldn’t. Who knows and it’s none of their business.” — Nicole D.

When they expect your full attention.

“They tend to forget that parents with small children cannot have long conversations. Then it becomes frustrated or resentful that the parents have to take care of their children.” —Kay F.

Or they give you a hard time because they’re not as punctual as they used to be.

“The comments were like, ‘Since becoming parents, they’re always late!’” — Erika S.

When they are unaware of your financial situation.

“Are you saying you can’t afford to travel internationally every year?” —Rachel M.

When they change plans at the last minute.

“I didn’t just manage myself, I had to find a caretaker. Stick to the plan or I won’t come.” — Sarah P.

When they tell you how to discipline your child.

“Spanking is a way to discipline your child. Or if your children don’t eat, starve them.” —Kathy L.

When they make snap judgments about your decisions as a parent.

“Just giving an opinion or comment about parenting. Making a quick, five-second assumption about a situation without ANY knowledge of history or context or what that little bastard had done in the morning leading up to this moment at the grocery store, Karen.” —Tiffany G.

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