A young Australian mother has outlined the five controversial rules she ‘will never’ enforce upon her two children, including physically disciplining them and forcing them to eat vegetables they don’t like.
Indy Clinton, 25, who lives with her husband and one-year-old son Navy on Sydney’s Northern Beaches, took to TikTok on Tuesday to discuss common parenting ‘rules’ – and the ones she’d never enforce.
Pregnant with her second child – a girl – Indy captioned the footage ‘get your popcorn ready’ to signal the ‘rant’ she was about to share with her 588,000 followers.
‘Let’s address the elephant in the room: discipline. I will never physically discipline my children ever. I was brought up with physical discipline – with a belt and a wooden spoon – and I just don’t think that’s the right way to discipline your children,’ she started.
Indy Clinton, 25, who lives with her husband and one-year-old son Navy on Sydney’s Northern Beaches, took to TikTok on Tuesday to discuss common parenting ‘rules’ – and the ones she’d never enforce
‘I get back in the day they did it at schools and it was the thing to do but I’m speaking from first-hand experience and I know that it doesn’t make a situation any better.
‘If anything it will give them life-long trauma. If you do that it’s your choice but your child is defenceless. I see comments all the time on my posts saying “you need to smack him” but that says more about you… I would actually be embarrassed writing that because it says you have some underlying problems you need to address.’
Indy has gained a large following on social media for sharing her ‘real’ parenting moments with Navy, who she describes as her ‘crazy toddler’.
The second ‘rule’ she won’t be following involves getting children to kiss and cuddle their older relatives.
‘If he doesn’t want to kiss and hug somebody he doesn’t have to. I don’t care if it’s family he does not have to do it. I want people to know and respect his choices – its his body, his rules,’ she said.
‘I remember when I was younger and my parents would have dinner parties they would make me kiss everyone around the dinner table goodnight. I would think I don’t know you and your whiskers are scratching my nose.’
Indy has gained a large following on social media for sharing her ‘real’ parenting moments with Navy, who she describes as her ‘crazy toddler’
The young mum will also not be asking her son to cough up on rent as he grows up
Despite having a sponsorship deal with Hello Fresh and frequently uploading photos of her favourite cook ups and meals, Indy said she won’t be forcing Navy and her unborn daughter to eat certain foods.
Which of Indy Clinton’s parenting rules do you agree with?
I will never physically discipline my child 3 votes I will never make my children pay rent 2 votes I will never impose a strict curfew 0 votes I will never make them eat food they don’t like 1 votes I will never make them kiss or hug older relatives 4 votes
‘I will never force him to eat anything he doesn’t want to eat. Obviously I’m going to guide him to try foods he hasn’t had before but I’m not going to blackmail him like “if you don’t finish what’s on your plate you don’t get dessert,”‘ she said.
‘If he doesn’t like a certain food or meal I’ve made I’m not going to be offended. I’ll say “you don’t have to eat it, what do you want to eat instead?”
‘Obviously I’m not going to feed him chocolate but I’m not going to force him to eat something he doesn’t like.’
The young mum will also not be asking her son to cough up on rent as he grows up.
‘I will never make him pay rent. I understand why families do make their children pay rent, it teaches them good like habits, but I brought this child into the world so I’m not going to make them pay rent at 15,’ she said.
‘When you’re 18 and finished school and have a job or going to university than maybe I’d get him to pay $50 a week but that’s not for me… that will be to go towards buying his own house.
Many of Indy’s followers were in agreement with her parenting decisions, labelling her ‘mum goals’, but not everyone saw the merit in her relaxed style
‘You brought that child into the world so you do not need to give them money stress.’
Finally, after growing up in what she described as a ‘strict’ household, Indy has decided to be lenient when it comes to curfews and late night parties.
‘I don’t want to be a strict parent when it comes to parties and curfews because I want him to be completely open with me. The stricter you are the more rebellious the kids are, it’s just a fact,’ she said.
‘I was brought up in the strictest family ever and being the youngest of five I feel like I was always the baby… I want to be the mum that he feels comfortable calling first if he needs anything, at any time, and I’ll be there in my pyjamas with some chicken nuggets.’
Many of Indy’s followers were in agreement with her parenting decisions, labelling her ‘mum goals’, but not everyone saw the merit in her relaxed style.
‘My mother makes us pay rent because there are seven of us but we only started paying rent at 18,’ one woman said.
‘I agree with everything except the rent paying. For my parenting anyway. I believe it helps teach them how to function and how to budget etc,’ said another.
A third added: ‘Your kids are going to be the most spoiled.’